In this season of weddings, amidst the tulle and lace and new beginnings we are given an opportunity to see where we, as spectators have been. As family members gather from far and wide, and strangers meet to celebrate, we can look around and remember.
We think of our own walk down the aisle, who toasted us, and the people no longer there by our side. What would these people say this time? What did they think, when they saw us bright eyed and hopeful?
Now that we have an enlarged vista of experience, what do we really see? Do our own hopes and dreams re-surface, does it stir up painful reminders of where we (or more likely, our then-partner went wrong!). What is our telescope as the young couple start their life dance? How easily will we be able to step back and let them learn on their own? How much have we truly matured?
I feel that it is safer for all of us to provide a harbour when they might need it, rather than to climb in and help steer their boat. Safer but not always easier.
Blessings to all in this grand adventure called Marriage.
S. and A. may your life together be bountiful in experiences that teach you more about yourself. Teach you when to rely on each other and when to stand alone, and may each day draw you closer together.